God has always granted me the grace to be happy in spite of myself and/or certain circumstances, which is why I sometimes found myself happily living an unhappy life. (How’s that for an oxymoron?)
Some things are not always as they seem.
The major cause of most of my unhappiness was not getting along with some people…not for the lack of trying. People pleasing is my passion, but admittedly I am not always very good at it, and when I tick people off, I really tick them off!
Here are a few examples of how not to do that; some Biblical, some not. Again, my comments are in parenthesis.
If someone hurts you repeatedly, you are commanded by God to forgive them instantly, but you are not expected to trust them immediately, and you are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you…The Purpose Driven Life – page 143. (This book has taught me so much.)
I am resolved in all human contact to meet petulance with patience, questionings with kindness, hatred with love, eager always to do the kindly deed that brings the joy of service and that alone makes human life truly human…Ralph Waldo Trine, In Tune with the Infinite. (Easier said?)
Love your enemies for they tell you your faults….Benjamin Franklin. (And that can be a good thing.)
…Encourage each other daily….Hebrews 3:13. (Don’t we all need daily encouragement?)
Compassion is to share with another whatever it is that circumstances are bringing to bear on that other. It means to be with, to share, to overlap, no matter how difficult or painful it may be…Madeleine L’Engle, Author. (Remember “A Wrinkle in Time”? This author was a great encourager.)
Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as you ever can…John Wesley. (This is a tall order, but you don’t have to be tall to fill it.)
Let everyone you meet be happier for having met you, for having spoken to you. This you can do by spreading joy….Edgar Cayce. (Ah, joy…that elusive, fleeting feeling of euphoria…I love it!)
Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend…Albert Camus. (Even if I tick you off!)
And finally, “Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments…”2 Timothy 2:23 NIV (I love this advice but don’t always take it!)
Please, just walk beside me and be my friend…