The Pain of Loneliness

Last week I received a call from a friend of ages past. We had quite a chat, catching up on each other’s lives and making plans to reconnect over lunch in the nicer weather.

Of all the words spoken by my old friend, what stood out the most was, “I’m lonely.”

This lady had spent a good part of her life raising children and welcoming grandchildren. She enjoys Sunday worship and coffee time afterwards but then goes home to an empty apartment. She reaches out to family and friends via telephone but seldom do we reach out to her.

What do to do about loneliness? Obviously the answer is to be aware of these people and make a point of remembering that they do exist and are in need of friendship and caring.

It was a reminder that there are those whose lives would benefit greatly from a telephone call, a visit, an invitation to lunch…whatever it takes to ease the pain of loneliness.

The lonely are everywhere…in our churches, families, public places, long term care facilities, hospitals…everywhere. If you are suffering from loneliness, do what my friend did, make that call and say, “I am lonely”.


4 thoughts on “The Pain of Loneliness

  1. I’ve read this several times, and yes loneliness is a problem for most people at times, but like everything in life there is more than one possible response, Maybe I’m idealistic but it seems to me that is when you work on turning your negatives into positives you change your outcomes, How? Use your time alone to be thankful, or use it to get re-inspired by reading a good book, some prayerful reflection on the positive things in your life, Absolutely reach out and rekindle good friendships, Get closer to God both in gratitude and need, Listen to “What a Wonderful World” or other inspiring music. Be the “Little engine that could” reach out and help someone who you feel is in a worse situation than yourself. Get involved in whatever interests you the most. Paint or draw a picture, sing a song, write a poem, I know someone who does this and it’s impressive to witness. Remember most of all we ALL have down days and times.

  2. Well said, Murland. However, knowing that we ALL have down times somehow doesn’t make a lonely person feel less lonely. As you suggest, my friend reached out to me and our conversation restarted our friendship of years ago. She felt less lonely after that and has our upcoming lunch to look forward to. Thank you for your comments…I really appreciate them.

  3. Another thought, Smile, then feel the warmth radiate down through your neck, into your shoulders, and on into your heart, Then smile at yourself “in the mirror”, and don’t forget to ask yourself”what am I smiling at?” you will be intrigued at your answer, Even if you think ” Your nuts”(but I love me anyway).

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